UPDATE: Psychotherapist Vanessa Marin has unveiled crucial strategies for exhausted parents struggling with intimacy. In a new report, she highlights that 37% of mothers express dissatisfaction with their sex lives, attributing this to a lack of time and energy.
This urgent advice comes amid growing concerns that many parents feel disconnected after long, hectic days filled with parenting duties. Marin emphasizes that the daily grind can sap the desire for intimacy, leading to a cycle of frustration and unmet needs.
Marin’s insights reveal that particularly 74% of millennial moms cite time and energy as the top factors affecting their sexual satisfaction. “When you’re worn out from managing kids’ activities and household chores, initiating intimacy often feels daunting,” she explains.
To combat this, Marin suggests parents should make a conscious effort to initiate intimacy, even when they’re not feeling fully “in the mood.” “Instead of waiting for the perfect moment—which rarely comes—ask yourself, ‘Am I open to intimacy?'” she advises.
“Initiating sex shows your partner they are important and that intimacy matters to you,” Marin states. “It can help break the cycle of waiting and reduce pressure on making sex a grand event.”
Moreover, Marin points out that both partners should share the responsibility of initiating intimacy to foster a healthier dynamic. “If one partner always takes the lead, it can feel burdensome,” she notes. Open conversations about desires and needs are vital. “Saying ‘I would love it if you initiated sometimes’ can strengthen a relationship immensely.”
With parenting schedules often packed, Marin encourages couples to explore intimacy in quick moments throughout the day. “A simple kiss or playful touch can reignite connection without requiring hours of uninterrupted time,” she says. “Finding small windows for intimacy—even a brief ‘Hey, want to sneak away for a bit?’—can make a significant difference.”
In addition to initiating intimacy, Marin underscores the importance of regular non-sexual touch to maintain closeness. “Cuddling, holding hands, or sending flirty texts during the day can keep the spark alive, even when energy is low,” she adds.
As parents navigate the complexities of raising children, Marin’s strategies offer hope for rejuvenating intimate connections. By fostering open communication, sharing initiation duties, and embracing small moments of affection, couples can transform exhaustion into a fulfilling sexual relationship.
In a world where many feel invisible to their partners, Marin’s advice is a timely reminder of the power of intimacy. “Don’t let the chaos of parenting overshadow your connection,” she urges. “You deserve to feel wanted, and so does your partner.”
As parents, finding balance is key. With Marin’s actionable insights, couples can reclaim intimacy and build a stronger bond, even in the midst of parenting chaos. Stay tuned for more expert tips on navigating relationships in today’s fast-paced world.
