A hairstylist from Ohio is grappling with her emotions after learning that another family member has offered to style her niece’s hair for an upcoming wedding. With over 37 years of experience, she was initially thrilled when her sister-in-law asked her to take on the role for the event, scheduled to take place in two months. However, her excitement turned to disappointment when she discovered that another niece, who lacks professional experience, has stepped in with aspirations of starting a wedding planning service.
The stylist, who expressed her feelings in a letter to advice columnist Abigail Van Buren, is struggling to understand why this change has affected her so deeply. “This hurts my feelings so bad,” she wrote, seeking guidance on how to cope with the situation.
In her response, Van Buren addressed the hairstylist’s concerns directly. She questioned whether the bride had indeed accepted the other niece’s offer. If so, Van Buren suggested the professional stylist prepare for the possibility of an amateur’s mishap on what she describes as “the most important day in a young bride’s life.” The advice included a call for compassion, encouraging the stylist to remain available should the bride require her expertise.
In another letter, a husband shared his frustration over his wife’s constant questioning and skepticism toward his statements. He described how even simple assertions, such as the weather, are met with doubt, leading him to a breaking point. He expressed a desire to communicate his feelings but feared the potential fallout. Van Buren advised him to confront the issue sooner rather than later, suggesting they seek counseling from a different therapist to address their communication issues effectively.
A third letter highlighted concerns about a husband’s social media habits, specifically his focus on following women who present themselves provocatively on Instagram. The writer questioned whether this behavior constituted emotional cheating or if it was merely a manifestation of lust. Van Buren clarified that while the behavior may be troubling, it does not typically qualify as emotional infidelity. She emphasized that such actions do not necessarily threaten the marriage.
Each of these letters reflects the complexities of personal relationships and the emotional challenges individuals face. Van Buren’s responses aim to provide insight and support, encouraging open communication and compassion among family members and partners.
Readers interested in submitting their own questions can reach out to Dear Abby via the official website or mailing address. The column, founded by Pauline Phillips and now written by her daughter, Jeanne Phillips, continues to resonate with audiences seeking guidance on life’s dilemmas.
